In her book French Women Don't Sleep Alone Jamie Cat Callan outlines the romantic secrets of French women that have intrigued and captivated men (and some women) for decades. Callan unlocks the secrets that have made French women so alluring.
I did find the advice offered in this book to be good; however, it's the same advice you'd find in The Rules. Both books concur that women should not chase men, that they should play hard to get and, not make themselves too easily available. That's nothing new or revolutionary. Also when reading this book there are some obvious caveats that you should take into consideration. First, French men are not American men and French culture is not American culture so, not everything will "translate"
so to speak. Second, the French live in a much smaller much more intimate country; therefore, their "rules of the game" will be different from our own.
I also don't like the notion of European cultural superiority and the idea that Europe does things better than America, or that Americans need to learn something from Europeans. As a proud "can do" American I do get a bit defensive about that. Nonetheless there are many things in this book that American women can learn from French women:
Instead of going online or to a club/bar try throwing a dinner party.
French women don't meet men online or in bars. Instead they meet men through their existing social circle or "coterie." Try throwing a dinner party at your home and have each guest bring one or two guests. This broadens your social circle and will give you a chance to get intimately acquainted with the people in your inner circle. Your friends and acquaintances will get to see you in a different light too- dinner parties give you a chance to show off your intellect and your cooking and conversation skills. There's also an air of competition. When you're online men already know you are available; when you meet at a dinner party they won't and thus can't take you for granted. They'll also take note of other potential suitors.
Go for a walk.
Instead of going to a restaurant on a first date and confining yourself to that one person for 2 hours, go on a walk or a bicycle ride. This eliminates the quid-pro-quo where because the man is paying for something he feels entitled and you (may) feel obligated. Also when you're out and about walking through town looking and smelling good other men will notice you…and don't think your date won't notice that. For the times when you don't have a date, fill in the time by doing something else out and about in the world where you can be visible to the opposite sex.
Dare to be feminine.
There's nothing wrong with being a woman and embracing your femininity. American women have had this beaten out of them for the past 40 years. French women on the other hand love being women and they don't turn their sensuality on and off- it's just always on. Second, French women don't hide their intelligence. In fact they like to look brainy and appear intellectual. Intelligence isn't a masculine trait and, real men know that smart is sexy.
Take care of your body.
French women put themselves first. Putting yourself first means taking care of your body both physically and emotionally. This is something we as BW especially, often neglect to do. Always know you're beautiful and be happy with who you are. Exercise. Eat quality, nutritious food. Take good care of your skin. In other words, don't neglect yourself.
The myth of the French Mistress.
Contrary to popular belief, adultery is not as tolerated in France as some people (men) would like to believe. Nor are French women as tolerant of a husband's indiscretions as we are sometimes led to believe. Let's also not ignore the fact that women are just as capable of being unfaithful. Affairs do happen in France but it's really not much different than in the U.S.
Overall I'd give this book 2 and ½ stars out of 5. Callan often repeats herself- really just re-wording points she's already made- throughout the book. However, I found it to be a cute and fast paced read that offered interesting advice and insight into another culture.